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Certainty in Uncertain Times

by Tony Robbins

A new city. A new job. The loss of a loved one. The loss of a dream.

Change is a part of life. Sometimes it’s positive, and other times less so. But regardless of what form it comes in, you have a choice: you can either ride the wave of change, or let it crash upon you as you struggle to remain afloat.

Sure, it’s easy to adopt a laissez faire attitude when turbulence comes your way. It’s the path of least resistance to shrug your shoulders, step back and watch as the events unfold and take their own course. But while that certainly requires less effort, it also disempowers you and precludes you from taking control over your own life.

The secret to handling change is to focus on progress. If you can make progress on a regular basis, then you feel alive. Now, you may be thinking that this is easier said than done. When you are lost, or trapped in an emotional fog, it’s hard to even make sense of what is happening, let alone understand what steps to take to move yourself forward. But by following these mandates, you can bring a sense of structure and certainty to an otherwise chaotic time, and start building something new, and perhaps even better.


Create a vision for what it is that you truly want. If you find yourself unemployed, what does your ideal career look like? If you recently relocated to a new city, what do you want your life to look like there? If you and your partner are having trouble, what does your dream relationship with him or her look like?

The vision must excite you. It has to be compelling. It has to pull you. It should not be something that you have to push yourself toward, it should be something that you desire more than anything else so that it moves you emotionally. Envision this goal, see how it makes you feel, and then dive in.


Now it’s time to declare: “Okay, I am not going to just sit here and hope everything will be okay. I am going to take control of this situation.” Cut off any other possibility. If this is what you want, then burn the boats. Make the resolution that you will find a way to make things work and mentally put yourself on the path towards achieving the vision you just set forth.


Now that you have your vision, and you have dedicated yourself on a fundamental level to reaching this goal, you need to find your reasons – your purpose for wanting to achieve this result.

This is one of the most important components to making progress because without it, you will lose your emotional drive. You will inevitably face hurdles, challenges and obstacles along your journey, but the reasons will help push you through. When the stress and pressure come, your reasons will propel you along and you won’t let the fear or negative talk take over.

Your reasons can be framed in a positive or a negative manner – “If I don’t do this, this is what it will cost me,” or “If I do this, then this is what I can gain in my life.” What matters most is that your reasons resonate deeply within you. They are not superficial, but rather, stem from a powerful purpose that carries a profound emotional weight.

Just remember, when you feel stuck or lost, reasons come first, answers come second. Find the meaning behind achieving your goal, and allow that to help you get on target when things get rough.


Think back to something you wanted more than anything, something you were so hungry for that you felt a deep emotional need for it, something that you were intensely clear about it, and thought about every single day. You just didn’t know how to make it happen. Then suddenly, you attracted the right situation or the right people, and everything just came together.

Why did that happen? Is it the Law of Attraction? Not exactly.

There’s a part of your brain called the RAS – reticular activating system – and it determines what you notice in the world. When you set a goal, become extraordinarily clear on it, and have strong enough reasons behind your intent, you trigger the RAS. Your brain then becomes incredibly acute at noticing anything that comes into your world that could help you move forward.

Invest yourself fully in your vision. Make it a key part of your focus every single day. Then start to take note of what pops up in your life. The opportunities and key insights that arise may just surprise you.



Ultimately, if you want to create real change in your life, you have to raise your standards.

How many years ago did you come up with what you could or couldn’t do in your life? Take a look at any area in your life where you have a limitation and ask yourself when you decided to accept that. For many of us, it’s these self-imposed limitations that prevent us from making any real progress in our lives. We have convinced ourselves that our status quo is exactly what we deserve, and we in turn, base our identities around that – wherever people have their identity attached to, they live.

If you want to create a new life for yourself, then you have to raise your standards. You have to let go of the limiting beliefs that keep you locked in complacency. Make progress a “must” for you. Refuse to settle for anything less. This will take practice, it’s not something that happens overnight. But the more often you adopt the thoughts, behaviors and rituals of a new identity, the more powerful your brain will become at finding ways to bring you there.


You have to back up your standards by what makes those standards real – rituals. Rituals are little things that you do each day that eventually build up so much momentum that it becomes a clear path to your vision.

If you are unhappy with your status quo, and feel that creating the life you desire is just a massive challenge, then break it down to bite-sized steps. Condition your body and emotions with a few small rituals. Maybe that means going for a short run in the morning. Or taking the time to make a healthy breakfast. Maybe it means incorporating incantations into your day. Or catching up with one good friend every week. It could even be doing something kind for someone else once a day.

Rituals are where the power is. They define us. They help us put our standards into action. Remember, when challenging periods come our way, we have the choice – to relinquish control, or to take action.

Creating the life you want is not an overnight event. It’s in the little things. It’s having a vision. It’s making it compelling. It’s seeing it and feeling it with absolute emotion. It’s caring about other people. It’s calling to say “I love you” for no reason. It’s about taking every opportunity to connect. To be playful. To honor and cherish your loved ones.

Change, no matter how devastating, does not have to define your life. You get to make that decision. And if you adhere to these mandates, then no matter how lost you may feel, you will be able to start designing the life you want, and living the life you deserve.

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Climbing the Steps of Leadership

Walking up Steps

Becoming a leader is a process.  In fact, there are five levels of leadership that we have to pass through to become what I call a Senior Leader.  However, we must begin somewhere!

Following are several truths we must embrace as we progress through the various levels, stages and seasons of leadership:

  1.  The higher you go, the longer it takes.  Don’t think you will arrive quickly.  In fact, things that usually sprout up quickly also wither quickly.  Learn from mentors and allow time, experience and failures to do their work in you.  Your best years are probably after your 45 years old.
  2. The higher you go, the higher level of commitment it takes from you.  Often, we start out with the commitment to do the right thing as a leader – make good decisions, produce results – but as we go higher we find there must be a greater commitment to become the right kind of leader – honest, hold to your values, do the right thing even when it  hurts – this takes a higher level of commitment.
  3. The higher you go, the greater the growth in you, your followers and your organization.  As we rise to a higher and higher level of leadership we gain more experience in people skills, producing fruit and making the right decisions that increases our personal growth as a leader and person, and also the ability to lead others to the next level which multiplies our growth, influence and productivity.
  4. You never leave your previous levels.  One level  of leadership builds upon the previous one.  Don’t forget the lessons learned at the previous levels as you will find you may need them again.  Don’t take short-cuts.  All that we learned in primary school benefits us in high school which benefits us in university.  The same as we progress through the various levels of leadership.
  5. As a leader, you will not be on the same level as your followers.  Your focus is different.  Your priorities are different.  You see things from a different perspective as a leader.
  6. However, you must work hard to carry your followers and fellow-leaders up to the next level with you.  You can’t leave them behind.  You must share your experiences, victories and defeats with them so they, too, can rise up to the next level as you grow.

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The Awkwardness of Leadership


Here’s an interesting observation about leadership:  There is a tension about leading – on the one hand we would like to think becoming a leader will bring a measure of personal satisfaction, peace and cordial relationships and respect from others – and yes it does, but on the other hand there also comes a constant dis-satisfaction as a leader, and sometimes a disruption of relationships!  Why is this true?

Three Truths about Leadership

1.  Leadership means discomfort.  If you’re going to be an effective leader you must live outside your comfort zone.  The nature of a leader is they are always pushing forward into new territory, taking risks and learning and doing something new.  This creates a tension between satisfaction, pleasure and apprehension of where your bold move will turn out or now!  As  leader, especially as you are “on your way up” a  leader, you are often in “over your head” – beyond your level of experience.  If you are a leader or are moving into leadership expect to be uncomfortable a lot of the time.

2.  Leadership means dis-satisfaction.  Dis-satisfaction is a tool to move the leader to greater things and higher levels.  One the one hand a leader is satisfied with the level that he/she has achieved and the positive changes that have occurred through his/her leadership, but on the other hand he/she is not satisfied with that level.  A leader cannot rest until they can see more and more, better and better good things accomplished through his/her leadership.  If you are a leader or are growing along the path of a leader be prepared to on the one hand live a very satisfied life, but on the other hand to live in dis-satisfaction as well.

3.  Leadership means disruption.  The status-quo is never the goal of a leader.  The leader disrupts the normal way of doing things to present a new or better way.  The leader doesn’t disrupt for the sake of being contentious, but he’s always looking to the future and what could be done to bring about more positive results in the world.  Sometimes a leader disrupts processes or policies that have been set in place for a long time (traditions).  Sometimes a leader disrupts relationships with he/she is trying to move the organization or business forward and there are those who resist.  If you are a leader or on the pathway to leadership be prepared to sometimes face difficulties with traditions, policies or people.  Be gentle with them and always try to lead by love and compassion, but expect that not everyone will want to walk with you as you make a new path to the future.

The above photograph is of Amelia Earhart, who was a pioneer in aviation.  She challenged the normal way of doing things during her lifetime (1897-1937).  She wasn’t satisfied with the status quo and keep pushing forward and paved the way for others to follow.

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Developing Skills With People, Session 1

People 1

Everyone must associate with people.  It’s very rare to find a person who is a complete recluse.  Most of us relate to people on a daily basis on a casual, personal and business level.

For me, personally, I’m an introvert.  I like to to be alone.  However, even after being alone for awhile I long for people.  I’ve worked with people for more than 35 years in a professional capacity.  As a pastor and director of an international organization with staff from many, many different countries I’ve worked with people from every kind of background and personality.  Because of my work over the years I’ve had to become a student of human nature and how to work with all kinds of people.

I will be the first to acknowledge my lack of skills to work with people.  I lack people skills in many ways, thus the even greater need for me to learn about human nature and how to relate to people on a personal level as well as professional level.

As a leader or just a regular human being, we must develop our skills with people.  Many of our problems in life and work are the result of us lacking in people skills.  

This blog is Session 1 in what will become a several-part short course on video. However, I’ll also put the basic content of each session in my blog.

Who should take this short-course?

  1.  Leaders or up-and-coming leaders who want to develop their people skills.
  2. Regular people – husbands, wives, parents, workers, youth – who want to grow.

What will you receive from this short-course?

  1. You will learn 10 characteristics of human nature.
  2. You will learn how you, as a leader, or good friend or acquaintance can become a positive influence to others in your sphere of influence.
  3. You will learn how to add value to those around you, including your boss or staff.
  4. You will learn how to discern and respond to people’s needs.

Stay tuned for future installments:  Ten Characteristics of People and how you can add value to others.

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How to Prioritize When Everything is Important

No such thing as not having enough timeDear Readers, I’ve been in the Northwest of Cambodia for the past few days teaching the director of our Center in Poipet City, Banteay Mean Chey Province, and his leadership team some of the lessons I’ve been teaching in Phnom Penh at my Cambodian Leadership Institute.  These guys are very far away and the level of knowledge in this Thai Border City is very low.  I’ve felt the urgency to do this for some time.

To learn more about this city you can take a look at the Wikipedia article here:  Poipet City, Cambodia.

We have an English School here and a kindergarten as well as many village activities.  People often tell me they want to see where I work and live, so here are a few photos from my phone:

I’m a person who manages multiple priorities, like you probably do, too.  But how is that actually done?  I have some thoughts of my own, but as I’m traveling and teaching this week I don’t have time to sort through them, so in my research I found the following site that I thought would be helpful to my readers.

In the following link is a post by Tatyana Sussex.  It was a helpful confirmation to me and hopefully will be to you too.

How to Prioritize Work When Everything is #1

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The Absolute Necessity for Leaders to Empower Others at All Levels


Empower Others 1

When a leader can’t or won’t empower others he creates a barrier within the organization.  If the barrier remains too long the staff or volunteers in the organization will give up and move on to another organization.  Eventually the organization will become weaker and weaker.

“If you want to become a successful leader you must empower others.”

Theodore Roosevelt, one of the presidents of the United States and an successful general in the U.S. Army said:  “The best executive is the one who is wise to choose people with ability to do what he needs to be done.  He also does not interfere with them when they are doing the work he assigned them to do.”

The success of your organization does not depend on you doing all the work, but it depends on your choosing, training and releasing others to do the work.

In the Bible we see that Barnabas is an example of a leader who empowered others.  One person he empowered was a man named Saul, who later became the Apostle Paul.  Barnabas’ ministry was multiplied because he took a chance and empowered another person!

Barnabas did three things to empower Paul:

  1. He believed in Paul when no one else believed in him.

Barnabas supported Paul as a  new Christian and believed in him when the senior leaders in the Jerusalem Church did not.  Barnabas risked his reputation when he told the Jerusalem Church leaders they should befriend Paul and welcome him into fellowship as a brother.

To be a leader who empowers others you must take a chance with people.  You must see the potential as a seed in them, believe in their potential and help them believe in themselves.  When we do this we risk our reputation and ministry because sometimes the people we believe in fail.  But it’s better to believe in someone and risk empowering them rather than to do everything yourself and not empower them.

When you empower someone and they succeed, your ministry is multiplied.   Also, the person you empower will never forget you!

Empower Others 3

  1. Barnabas endorsed Paul as a leader to other leaders.

We read in Acts 9:27 that Barnabas brought Paul to the other apostles and recommended that they allow him to preach and teach in Jerusalem.

As you empower others and you see them bear some fruit, introduce them to other opportunities to grow, learn, serve and use their gift.  It’s important to tell others of the new leader’s success and introduce them to other leaders.

  1. Barnabas empowered Paul to reach is potential.

In this story in the Bible we see that Paul began teaching and preaching in Jerusalem but the Jews hated him and wanted to kill him.  The apostles sent him to the church in Antioch for his safety.  In Antioch Paul continued to grow in his leadership and influence.  Eventually when Barnabas was sent to Antioch to help the Antioch Church he looked for Paul and they worked together.  This action by Barnabas allowed Paul to grow even more as a leader.  Finally, Paul and Barnabas traveled together preaching the Gospel, making disciples, training leaders and planting churches.  Eventually Barnabas humbled himself and allowed Paul to be the leader of the team.

To become a leader who empowers others you must not only believe in the leader who has potential, but you must give opportunities for them to gain experience as you mentor them.


To empower others involved energy, time and sometimes money.  You must always be looking for potential leaders.  Encourage them.  Allow them to gain experience.  Introduce them to others who can help them continue to grow.  Give them opportunities to serve and lead as you mentor them.  Release them to be a leader.  The result of this is growth in the organization or church.


  1. Who has God brought to you to develop their ability and potential?
  2. Who are you training to take your place in your ministry?
  3. Who are you empowering?
  4. What skills or experience do you have to delegate to others?
  5. What is your plan to develop them?
  6. What can you do next week to allow your disciple to develop as a leader?

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