Church Planting, Evangelism, Family, Leadership, Missions, Personal Development, Uncategorized

The Fool, Wise Man and Genius

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A fool never learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from his mistakes. A genius learns from other people’s mistakes.

Share below life lessons you’ve learned from your mistakes or which you’ve learned from other people’s mistakes.

 

 

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One Remedy for Healing Wounded Hearts

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Life is difficult.  There are many different painful and disappointing situations we face throughout our lives.  Some hurt us deeply and are difficult to overcome.  I don’t mean to offer a simplistic answer to a complex issue, but I do want to offer one way to heal a wounded heart – invest yourself in others.

In my daily Bible reading I read from Matthew 14:1-14 Matthew 14.  John the Baptist was Jesus’ cousin according to the flesh.  He was unmercifully killed by King Herod.  When Jesus heard about the tragedy he departed to a quiet place to be alone and grieve and gain perspective.  However, as it often is, life goes on.  As Jesus is going to the quiet place the crowds follow Him.  One place in the Bible said they were like sheep without a shepherd.  Jesus saw them and was moved with compassion.  This word “compassion” is a long, Greek word that means something churns within your spirit and drives you to do something.  How many times have we watched the news or seen tragedy and we are touched, but not to the point of lifting our hands or opening our wallet to actually try to relieve some of the pain in others’ life?

Jesus set aside His time to grieve and served the people.  He healed the sick and ministered to their needs.

There is a time to grieve.  There is a time for emotional healing.  But my experience is that sometimes people focus too much on the “why” and the pain to the point it doesn’t stop.  One of the greatest remedies for our own suffering is to serve others.  As we focus on others who are in greater need then us, it can relieve our suffering.

I’m a missionary in Cambodia.  I came here in 1994 to visit a fellow missionary.  I experienced the same emotions that Jesus must of felt – I saw the devastation of war, poverty, ignorance and hopelessness and felt moved for me, my wife and our four children to move to Cambodia in April of 1995 to see what would could to to bring positive change to Cambodia.  The results of an ordinary guy have been amazing.  We have touched thousands of children, youth, widows and poor and have given them a good future.

My son is the director of New Life Foundation / New Life Fellowship now and my wife and I are in an advisory role and focus on certain projects.  My wife focuses on New Life K-12 School and I focus on opening up new locations in Cambodia and training the leaders.  You can check out our organizations website here:  New Life Foundation / Fellowship / Cambodia Outreach.

I recently made a personal donation to help a young child finish one more year of school.  The public education here is pretty poor and anyone who has means studies at a private school. Education is a key to overcoming poverty.  I donated USD$450 to Naomi to get a good education.  I’ll try to do this each year as I’m able.

If you want to invest in the education of a child, you can make a tax-deductible donation at the following link and indicate it is for Charles McCaul to sponsor a child’s education.  Sponsor a Child’s Education for One Year – USD$450.  You may contact me directly at charles.edward.mccaul@gmail.com.

If you are not already engaged in helping others I encourage you to do so.  Find a need and fill it; find a heart and heal it.  It’s good medicine for the wounded heart!

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Also, please leave a comment below about your experience in finding healing by helping others.

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Seven Things to do When You’re in a Self-Inflicted Transition

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John Maxwell said it, and my personal experience verifies it:  “To to up, you have to give up.”

To rise to the next level in personal growth as a leader we must give up something to rise to the next level.  Three things are important to understand here:

  1.  You can’t keep doing the same thing over and over again and expect different results. You have to do something new.

  2. You can’t do everything at once.  You can’t do everything you are currently doing and add more.  You will become less and less effective, not more and more effective.

  3. Sometimes we must give up the good to receive something better.  We must say “no” to the good in order to say “yes” to the best.

In my life I’ve passed over many, many self-inflicted transitions – meaning I left one thing behind in order to do something I felt was better.  However, there is often a season “in between” what we are leaving and what we are going into that leaves us unsettled and a bit nervous or fearful.  For me, it would be like a trapeze artist having to have the faith to let go of one thing in hopes of catching something else.  There is an “open space” where one must exercise faith.

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Here are seven things that have helped me to negotiate those “open spaces” in transitions:

Seven Keys to Transition Successfully

  1.  Have a plan for your life.  If you have no plan for your life, then any road will lead you somewhere, but it may not lead you to where you want to go!  I think one of the most important things we can do for our life as have at least a general direction for our lives for the next few years.  We never know how things may change, including our life-mission, but we should at least have a general direction for where we want to go based on what we see now.
  2. Understand the Seasons of Life.  As we mature, we pass through several seasons of life.  (This is an video lesson that will show up here in the next few weeks – stay tuned.)  There are seasons where growth, seasons of under the supervision of others, seasons of leading at one level or another.  There are seasons of joy and seasons of sadness.  However, it’s been my experience that if we learn and allow that season to have its full effect in our life, it will prepare us for the next season.  So, as you transition from one season to another, and especially during the “open spaces” believe that what you are leaving behind has been precious for that season and has prepared you for the next season.  Here’s another thing…it’s been my experience that sometimes you let go of one thing that is very precious to us but surprise surprise….it comes back to us in a future season, so it’s not lost forever!
  3. Realize you can’t do everything at the same time.  You must give up something to grasp something else.  Have you ever gone grocery shopping and think you’re not buying much so you don’t pick up a basket or cart, but you buy this and then that until your hands are too full.  You have to put down something to pick up something else.  This is associated with the leadership Principle of Focus.  We must narrow our focus to a few things and develop them rather than so many things that our effectiveness is watered down.

21882488-full-shopping-grocery-cart-in-supermarket-4.Believe the next step will lead you to something positive in your life.  

5. Trust your heart.  If your heart is pure and true, God will put His desires in your heart and you will know the right thing to do.

6. Seek advice from successful people who know the way.  As well as trusting your heart, it’s good to seek others who have walked this way before and get their opinion.

7. Prepare the best you can.  Although we trust our heart and seek advice, we must also prepare for the transition the best we can.  Study, research, gather what you need and then step out!

As I think about the many, many transitions I’ve made in my life – many of them huge – most of them have turned out pretty good.  The above seven points have been what I’ve learned from my experience.

What about you?  What have you learned to help you through transitions and the “open spaces” as you’re letting go of one thing to reach out and grasp another?

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Six Keys for Better Communication

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Communication between husband and wife, employer and employee and among friends is difficult at the best!  How many times have relationships been broken, deadlines missed and opportunities lost because of ineffective communication.

In the Communication Process, there are two people:

  1. The Sender: Chooses the words and timing
  2. The Receiver: Interprets the words and respond

Note…communication (verbal, non-verbal and written communication) must be interpreted…even if it’s in the same language!

Can you imagine – you’re trying to get the thoughts, feelings, background in your brain or deepest of heart into the brain or deepest of hearts of the person you’re speaking to.  There is a ton of obstacles in the way.  Imagine the difficulty!

Have you found this to be true?  Someone says something, writes something or shows non-verbal communication and how you interpret it is wrong and there is a misunderstanding…or does that only happen to me?

Take a look at the chart below:

Communication Process

Whenever we receive communication it must pass through our personal “filters.”  Those filters include our language, our emotional or physical situation, our culture, or wounds or hurts from the past experiences.  Sometimes, maybe often, those messages from the person “sending” or “receiving” are distorted because of these things.  It’s for that reason we must focus on the communication, interpret it and be patient with the person sending as we would want them to be patient with us.

Six Keys for Better Communication (for the “Sender”)

  1. Tell them what you will tell them. Tell them.  Tell them what you told them.  Be clear!
  2. Consider your choice of words, method of communication, the atmosphere when you are communicating and the situation of the Receiver.
  3. Ask the person you want to communicate with if it’s a good time for them.
  4. Ask for feedback, “What do you think?”  “What do you hear me saying?”
  5. Be patient if they don’t understand.  Don’t blame them.
  6. If they don’t understand, try again.

What are your keys to successful interpersonal communication and work communication?  Leave comments below.

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What Makes and Effective Executive?

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(Photo by Kaitlyn McCaul, Willamette Valley, Oregon)

by Peter Drucker

An effective executive does not need to be a leader in the sense that the term is now most commonly used. Harry Truman did not have one ounce of charisma, for example, yet he was among the most effective chief executives in U.S. history. Similarly, some of the best business and nonprofit CEOs I’ve worked with over a 65-year consulting career were not stereotypical leaders. They were all over the map in terms of their personalities, attitudes, values, strengths, and weaknesses. They ranged from extroverted to nearly reclusive, from easygoing to controlling, from generous to parsimonious.

What made them all effective is that they followed the same eight practices:

  • They asked, “What needs to be done?”
  • They asked, “What is right for the enterprise?”
  • They developed action plans.
  • They took responsibility for decisions.
  • They took responsibility for communicating.
  • They were focused on opportunities rather than problems.
  • They ran productive meetings.
  • They thought and said “we” rather than “I.”

The first two practices gave them the knowledge they needed. The next four helped them convert this knowledge into effective action. The last two ensured that the whole organization felt responsible and accountable.

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