When I read this book several years ago (eMyth Revisited) it helped me make a major shift in my thinking and strategy in regards to training and placing leaders and creating systems. I highly recommend it. (This works for churches, businesses, schools and organizations). As we make disciples and train leaders we must understand the difference between a worker and a manager and a leader. We often see a person with a skill and put them in a management or leadership role. We assume because they can play guitar and sing they can lead a worship team. This is simply not true. Check out my Mentoring Growing Leaders YouTube. I believe I have a short lesson on this.
“The successful man is the average man focused.” “Most ‘unsuccessful’ people are just highly-distracted people.” What is the One Thing you must focus on to bring you to the next level? Cast aside everything else! You must reject the good to choose the best!
The photo above is of a man – Roger – whom I haven’t seen in more than 40 years. I had the opportunity to meet up with him again this holiday season. I had actually forgot about him specifically, but he had a life-changing impact on me in 1974. I was working a place which closed down. I found another job where Roger and a close friend of mine, Terry, worked. I worked there for a month then was called back to work at an affiliate of the place that had laid me off. However, during that month Roger and Terry were instrumental in bringing a life-changing event into my life.
You see, Roger and Terry were Christians. They were true Christians. They tried to talk to me about their faith and Jesus Christ but I flat out rejected them. In fact, I remember distinctly walking with Roger and he was sharing his faith with me and I told him to his face, “Roger, I don’t want anything to do with your religion and this Jesus Christ. Please stop talking to me about this.” Roger respectfully did. However, within a week I decided to join their Monday Night Bible Study and on that Monday night I gave my life to Jesus Christ. I can honestly say a clear and sudden change came into my life. It was amazing and I haven’t turned back in more than 40 years.
In fact, I eventually became a pastor and missionary. In Cambodia, where I’ve been serving the Lord for more than 23 years, there has been tens of thousands of people who have received an education, orphaned or at-risk children cared for and educated, water wells dug, houses built, and lives brought out of poverty because me and my wife decided to move to that worn-torn country in April 1995. Not to mention receiving forgiveness and a new life and new hope because of their faith in Jesus Christ. To say tens of thousands have been touched by our decision is actually a conservative number.
But none of this would have happened if Roger and Terry did not display true Christianity to me. I wasn’t convinced to follow Jesus because of their persuasive doctrine, but because of their persuasive lifestyle. I saw something different in them.
Roger had no idea that his example has had such intercontinental positive influence. You see, I see the same for you. I’m convinced that every person has value and that includes you. You can be a person that changes the world either through your personal actions or by just being a person full of kindness, love and generosity. I encourage you live with expectation that you are a person of destiny and you will impact your generation.
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My readers know that I’m a Christian Missionary so many of my posts reflect my worldview. In my daily Bible reading this morning, I read from Matthew 15:21-28, an interesting passage where Jesus actually initially rejects a woman’s request for deliverance for her daughter.
21 Leaving that place, Jesus withdrew to the region of Tyre and Sidon. 22 A Canaanite woman from that vicinity came to him, crying out, “Lord, Son of David, have mercy on me! My daughter is demon-possessed and suffering terribly.” 23 Jesus did not answer a word. So his disciples came to him and urged him, “Send her away, for she keeps crying out after us.” 24 He answered, “I was sent only to the lost sheep of Israel.” 25 The woman came and knelt before him. “Lord, help me!” she said. 26 He replied, “It is not right to take the children’s bread and toss it to the dogs.” 27 “Yes it is, Lord,” she said. “Even the dogs eat the crumbs that fall from their master’s table.” 28 Then Jesus said to her, “Woman, you have great faith! Your request is granted.” And her daughter was healed at that moment.
God’s Plan and Purpose for Mankind is revealed and executed in stages according to priority. He created the universe in 7 days. He could have done it in one moment, but chose to use a process. He sent Jesus, the Christ – Savior of the World – at the appointed time. The world needed Him sooner, but God works according to process and priorities. God has other ways of meeting people’s needs in the meantime, so He doesn’t leave anyone in history without the opportunity to meet Him.
In this situation the woman was a Canaanite, not a Jew. Jesus’ short ministry mission of 3 1/2 years was focused on Israel. The World-Focus would come later, but during that span of time His focus was on Israel. When the woman approached Him his disciples wanted her to go away, “She’s bothering us. She’s interrupting our mission. Her situation is too complicated and we don’t have the resources to help everyone!” However, her persistence paid off. Her need touched the heart of Jesus and He changed His priorities to address her need.
Think about this woman’s situation – her daughter was demon-possessed. She was probably violent. Perhaps she was hurting herself or others. Maybe she wasn’t eating or was immobile and couldn’t help herself. How can we pass that by?
I live in a country (Cambodia) where I see severe needs on a daily basis. I’m a man with a mission. I have goals, priorities – people to meet, places to go, a mission to accomplish. There are so many needs how can I meet them all? The answer is “I can’t.” But I can meet some…
Do you remember the little story bout the starfish?
Once upon a time, there was an old man who used to go to the ocean to do his writing.He had a habit of walking on the beach every morning before he began his work. Early one morning, he was walking along the shore after a big storm had passed and found the vast beach littered with starfish as far as the eye could see, stretching in both directions. Off in the distance, the old man noticed a small boy approaching. As the boy walked, he paused every so often and as he grew closer, the man could see that he was occasionally bending down to pick up an object and throw it into the sea. The boy came closer still and the man called out, “Good morning! May I ask what it is that you are doing?” The young boy paused, looked up, and replied “Throwing starfish into the ocean. The tide has washed them up onto the beach and they can’t return to the sea by themselves,” the youth replied. “When the sun gets high, they will die, unless I throw them back into the water.” The old man replied, “But there must be tens of thousands of starfish on this beach. I’m afraid you won’t really be able to make much of a difference.” The boy bent down, picked up yet another starfish and threw it as far as he could into the ocean. Then he turned, smiled and said, “It made a difference to that one!”
We can’t solve all the problems of the world, but we can solve some. In our busy life from time to time God brings us across the path of a need or an opportunity that only we can meet at that time of need; sometimes that is a Moment in Destiny. It’s God’s appointed time for us to reach out and touch someone and make a difference in their life – perhaps a history-changing touch. Maybe it’s sponsoring a child’s education. Maybe it’s building a home. Maybe it’s contributing toward a patient’s healing. Maybe it’s taking time to listen to someone’s heart or speak a word of hope and encouragement to them. It’s small. It might be a one-off act of kindness, but it can change the destiny of someone.
I believe in you and I believe you have a God-ordained destiny. In your walk through life pay attention to those moments God touches your heart to respond to change someone’s history.
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A fool never learns from his mistakes. A wise man learns from his mistakes. A genius learns from other people’s mistakes.
Share below life lessons you’ve learned from your mistakes or which you’ve learned from other people’s mistakes.
Communication between husband and wife, employer and employee and among friends is difficult at the best! How many times have relationships been broken, deadlines missed and opportunities lost because of ineffective communication.
In the Communication Process, there are two people:
- The Sender: Chooses the words and timing
- The Receiver: Interprets the words and respond
Note…communication (verbal, non-verbal and written communication) must be interpreted…even if it’s in the same language!
Can you imagine – you’re trying to get the thoughts, feelings, background in your brain or deepest of heart into the brain or deepest of hearts of the person you’re speaking to. There is a ton of obstacles in the way. Imagine the difficulty!
Have you found this to be true? Someone says something, writes something or shows non-verbal communication and how you interpret it is wrong and there is a misunderstanding…or does that only happen to me?
Take a look at the chart below:
Whenever we receive communication it must pass through our personal “filters.” Those filters include our language, our emotional or physical situation, our culture, or wounds or hurts from the past experiences. Sometimes, maybe often, those messages from the person “sending” or “receiving” are distorted because of these things. It’s for that reason we must focus on the communication, interpret it and be patient with the person sending as we would want them to be patient with us.
Six Keys for Better Communication (for the “Sender”)
- Tell them what you will tell them. Tell them. Tell them what you told them. Be clear!
- Consider your choice of words, method of communication, the atmosphere when you are communicating and the situation of the Receiver.
- Ask the person you want to communicate with if it’s a good time for them.
- Ask for feedback, “What do you think?” “What do you hear me saying?”
- Be patient if they don’t understand. Don’t blame them.
- If they don’t understand, try again.
What are your keys to successful interpersonal communication and work communication? Leave comments below.
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