Cursed be the day I was born!
May the day my mother bore me not be blessed!
15 Cursed be the man who brought my father the news,
who made him very glad, saying,
“A child is born to you—a son!”
16 May that man be like the towns
the Lord overthrew without pity.
May he hear wailing in the morning,
a battle cry at noon.
17 For he did not kill me in the womb,
with my mother as my grave,
her womb enlarged forever.
18 Why did I ever come out of the womb
to see trouble and sorrow
and to end my days in shame?
Sometimes we are so defeated…so depressed…so tired…that we just don’t have any more hope and we regret that we were ever born. I’ve experienced that and I know many of you have, too. So what do we do when we feel that way? Following are some suggestions:
1. Rise Above Self-Pity. Feeling sorry for ourselves is one of our greatest challenges to overcome. “Oh things are so bad. Why does this always happen to me?” We must identify and reject these thoughts (called self-talk) that cause us to feel sorry for ourselves. We must use our voice, speak to them and reject them: “I reject this thought of self-pity. I will not continue to compare myself with others or feel sorry for myself.” Identifying, using our voice and rejecting these thoughts are key. Often we just allow our mind to continue to think about what we perceive as a terrible situation and we spiral down and down, deeper and deeper into depression and hopelessness. Mark 11:22-24
2. Think Positively. Someone said “Success is going from one failure to another without loosing hope.” We all experience failure, huge problems and seemingly hopeless situations. It’s common to all humanity. 1 Peter 4:12. With God, there is always hope. God is able to do exceedingly abundant above all we can think or imagine. Ephesians 3:20. There is hope. But if we continue to think upon the negative we hinder what God will do. Thinking positively is called “FAITH.” Hebrews 11:1. Faith is believing in what we do not yet see.
3. Learn From Your Experiences. We must evaluate ourselves and our situation and try to discover why we are in this situation. There are three sources of our problems: 1) Self-inflicted. We got ourselves into this situation because of our own foolishness, wrong choices or disobedience to God. 2) Other-inflicted. Others got us into this situation because of their dislike for us, their foolish decisions or disobedience to God. 3) Satan-inflicted. We are under the attach of demonic forces. If we are the source of the problem – repent and change your actions. If others are the source of the problem – forgive and put it behind you – move on. If demonic forces are the source of the problem – command them to leave in Jesus’ name and continue to resist the devil and he will flee from you (James 4:7) However, the first step is to evaluate your situation and ask yourself objectively – why is this happening?
4. Seek New Methods. Someone said, “Foolishness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.” If we want out of our situation we must seek new methods to get out. We must think out of the box. We must read books, seek counsel and do things differently than before.
5. Remember That You Are a Person of Value, Worth and Destiny. Your failures, your mistakes, the terrible situation you find yourself in does not define who you are. You were born with a destiny. You were born with a purpose (Psalm 139:13-17) Don’t let anyone or anything convince you of anything different. You are important. You have purpose. You have hope!
When we are feeling despair, hopelessness and wonder why we were ever born we must look beyond our current situation. Many of us, if not all of us, pass through seasons of discouragement, even severe discouragement. Look at Jeremiah. He was very low emotionally, but he carried on and found his strength in God and his words and life are now an encouragement to us.
Don’t get the idea that our life will be a continuous easy path. That’s not realistic. Fact is, difficulties are a part of life (James 1:2-12; 1 Peter 1:3-9) Read these Bible verses and mediate on them.
– Stay involved in Church and fellowship with Christian friends
– Keep prayerfully and thoughtfully reading the Bible daily – God will speak
– Spend time with God daily, praying about your situation, praying for others and thanking Him for what He has done, will do and for what He is doing at this moment that you’re not even aware of
DON’T GIVE UP!